How I Saved My Motherhood & Sanity - 6 Tips



 I've written many times before about choosing to leave my career to be a stay at home mom. 
I feel truly blessed that I am able to stay home with my children, but If I'm being honest, for a while I was losing sight of how wonderful being a stay at home mom could be.
Most days I looked like I was a chicken with his head cut off {see above photo haha}
 I didn't want to look back 20 years from now and wish I had enjoyed this time more.
I saw how fast the kids were growing up and I really wanted to make the most of this season of my life.
I want to focus on enjoying more, so I'm sharing 6 Tips that helped me Enjoy Being A SAHM again.

HAVE A ROUTINE
This one is not only for the kids but for mamas as well.
Kids thrive on a routine and honestly, so do I!
It's okay if some days the routine gets thrown off but everyone will be happier if they can expect for certain things to happen around the same time everyday.
This is honestly the biggest thing I struggle with as a stay at home mom.
I'm very easily distracted, so it helps for me to have my routine written down to follow as a guideline.

WAKE UP BEFORE THE KIDS
I know, this sounds horrible, especially for you sleep deprived mamas {read more about that here} but I promise you this will set the tone for the whole day!
I ask my husband to wake me up when he's getting ready for work at 4:45 am.
I wake up, wash my face and pour myself a big ol' mug of coffee.
Luca often wakes up by 5am but just having that fifteen minutes to myself before he wakes up is HUGE.
I'm not grumpy when he runs out of bed full of energy and the day gets off to a great start!
If I'm really lucky, and he sleeps in I do my make up and start some laundry as well.

MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF
This is crucial for your sanity.
Even if your little guy or girl has given up naps, set a time for quiet time in your daily routine.
I know this can be really hard for busy kids, trust me I know first hand, but be persistent.
Everyday we have one hour of quiet time where I go downstairs and catch up on work or have a cup of tea and watch something on Netflix while Luca plays quietly in his room.
It took a few weeks of me putting him back in his room over and over again, but remember you are the parent and some down time is good for everyone!

EXERCISE
I remember going to my doctor a couple of years ago with all sorts of symptoms of stress and she told me that I needed to make sure I implemented exercise into my routine at least 3 times a week.
It wasn't until this past year that I started implementing it and I can't tell you how life changing it has been for me physically and mentally!
I wish I had started taking care of my body years ago.
I go to a spin class once a week and go for weights or cardio two days.
There is a daycare in the gym that I leave my three year old in for an hour while I go work out which allows him time to play with other kids his age.
After I work out I have so much energy and my mind is so clear and free, I feel like I can take on the world!

FIND MOM FRIENDS
 I honestly don't know what I would do without my mama friends.
I had my first daughter when I was only 19 and all my friends were off at University while I was at home taking care of baby.
I signed myself up for some mom and baby playgroups so I could meet some other mama's and I made some of my very best friends.
Motherhood is beautiful but it can also be very hard, you need the support of other people who get it.

KNOW THAT ITS OKAY TO NOT ENJOY EVERY MOMENT
Don't be so hard on yourselves, Mama's.
You are going to have bad days, and that is OKAY.
It's not reality to enjoy every single moment of this journey.
It is the most beautiful journey, but it is HARD.
We all have our good days and bad days, we are human after all.
The important thing is to love your children with all your being.

I'd love to hear some of your tips in the comments below! 

Kelsey
ox.

8 comments:

  1. I loved this! I am there with ya when you say wake up before they do! I totally believe this. And yes, thanks for the push...I do need to get back into exercising instead of pretending thinking about it counts as actually doing it.

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    1. haha oh I was in that mindset for a long time! once you get into the routine it feels really good :)

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  2. This is a great list. I feel as moms we are always so pressured to enjoy the moments...they grow so fast...but some days we just can't enjoy it!! It is okay to accept the good days and the bad!

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  3. Great tips! I def need to work on a few of these.

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  4. When I read the title, I knew it was a post I needed to read. I concur with all of these. I feel so much better when I wake up before the kids and get started before the chaos ensues.

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  5. YES! These are all SO important. The only thing I cannot get into is the wake before kids. SO difficult for this mama!

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  6. I loved this and needed to read it! The last month we have been off our groove and I have been struggling to get back. Thanks! And Merry Christmas!

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